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  1. I need some feedback.. My blog is about me and my everyday life, whether I'm happy, or I'm sad.. I just need someone to hear me out..

    The blog I need help with is willowspeaks.wordpress.com.

  2. invisiblemikey
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    Well, reading your work, I could sure feel the ache and the fear.

    I don't know how you will be able to sustain happiness if it is determined by whether or not a particular guy loves you like you love him, Willow. I've had a few attempts at total one-sided devotion, and it never led to anything but hurt for me. You pretty much have to learn to love yourself first, and believe you are worthy to be loved, before you qualify to achieve a mature kind of romantic love between equal partners, the kind that can last a lifetime. It's a hard lesson, but an absolute prerequisite.

  3. I'm with Mikey on this. You are responsible for where you are in life at this moment – what you think about ourself and others and how you feel and whom you choose to share your life with. Others aren't responsible for your thought, actions or feelings. If you don't learn how to love yourself you are setting yourself up to be used and abused. When you do learn to love yourself you will not become attached to users and abusers. It's that simple.

    Healthy relationships that may last a life time are not based on need and infatuation. They are based on mutaul respect, affection, freedom and complementarity. Granting another person the freedom to be themselves, to stretch and grow or to wither and stagnate, is the ultimate result of love–unconditional love. But you can't grant that freedom to others until you learn to love yourself.

    Action Plan
    (1) Accept yourself for who you are and learn to love yourself just as you are.
    (2) Accept your feelings and examine them closely so you can understand yourself mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
    (3) Learn to direct your mind, body and emotions to enjoy health and wellness.
    (4) Uncover core beliefs leftover from your childhood and replace the negative with positive.
    (5) Strengthen your inner self and begin changing what you do not like about yourself.
    (6) Witness the change in your self-esteem and self-confidence levels and celebrate your progress.
    (7) Allow yourself to accept and others exactly as they are without any expectations. They aren't responsible for how you feel -- you are.
    (8) Seek common ground but always celebrate differences.

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