Thank you for your help. I thought I wanted a menu at the top, but now I've change my mind because it looks ugly and overlaps a good deal of the rest of every page ... if that is what it will look like. I would rather, instead, use my pages widget in the right sidebar for navigation. Currently this blog is password protected and private. Actually, I don't know how all that horsey type that is a menu got there. I must have made a mistake, but I don't know what it was. When I go to Appearance > Menu, there is nothing there anymore that allows me to delete the menu.
The blog I need help with is chongfamily.wordpress.com.