Sorry... I forgot blockquotes don't work the same here as hey do on my blog. I'll repost for clarity:
I have read all of your comments and questions in the forums from the beginning.
Are you absolutely sure about that?
As you had said in comments re: hand-holding it seems you only turn to the forums when you have a big head of steam up in frustration with things not working as they should.
Coming here as a last resort after researching a problem on my own, is not the same as having a "big head of steam" or even being angry. Do not put words in my mouth, or state as fact what you erroneously infer from my words.
This translates into a sense of hostility in your writing. That is what I pick up on.
You have the cause and effect reversed. The frustration you pick up on is a result of the attitude that frequents these forums.
It is not the fault of the volunteers, the software, your abilities or even staff or WordPress often.
I have never said or implied that the technical problems are their fault. But they are responsible for their own behavior. You were quick to point out that perhaps my approach is the reason I have received the responses I have, but you fail to recognize that this works both ways.
Each situation has a unique mix of circumstances.
Exactly! Which is precisely why I take issue with being talked down to by smug, arrogant know-it-alls, and being treated like I'm stupid or that I'm doin' it rong. If anyone has a problem with me finally saying so, too bad.
We can argue about it all day and try to place blame or we can choose to rein that in and try to cooperate and solve the problem at hand.
I no longer expect to get any answers here. Ever. My comment which bumped this post today was prompted by a discussion in the Off Topic forum in which several of the volunteers make disparaging comments about people who come here for help. I responded, calling them on their condescending attitudes. I was then accused of being one of the people who doesn't think for herself or do her own research, and a fragment of one sentence I wrote (in this thread) was used to support the accusation (thats why I posted the new comment here). That was the last straw. So you can thank your buddies here for opening this can of worms. If they can't take it, they ought not dish it out.
If you have a question I can help to answer I will be happy to try. If not I prefer to generally skip the verbal jousting and move on.
Your choice. I find all discussion and debate can be useful if you're tuned in and give a shit. The only way we don't learn from it, is if you we refuse to or don't even try. But please don't claim to know the history involved when you clearly do not. And do not accuse me of saying things I haven't said or put words in my mouth and expect that I won't have a thing or twenty to say about it.
Context...a very busy forum with tens of thousand of questions and answers.
Which is why I don't blame you for not understanding the history here. So please don't claim to.