I have been in the same relationship with my best friend and partner in life for over 30 years. These are extracts from my blog:
Men and women are both from earth and they both need and want the same things in long term relationships. Men and women have far more in common than they do differences. However, those selling products and services and their customers dwell on the differences, and what we fail to recognize is that when we buy into stereotyping we are buying into dehumanizing each other.
There are no characteristics that are innately female so men ought to stop making assumptions about individual women based on what they think is their knowledge of “how women think” or “what women want”. Likewise there are any characteristics that are innately male, and women ought to stop making assumptions about individual men based on cliche’s, stereotyping and generalizations.
In a healthy relationship the other person sees you, treats you, and feels about you, as you would like to be seen, treated, and felt about. In a healthy relationship the other person wants you to achieve your goals, hopes and dreams as much as you want to achieve them.
Relationships that may last a lifetime are:
between two mature people who are keenly aware that happiness comes from within;
founded on respect, trust, equality, shared ethics and morals;
free of dependence;
based on complementarity rather than on need;
evidenced by open communication, compromise and teamwork;
evidenced by mutual affection and commitment;
evidenced by support and understanding;
evidenced by healthy conflict resolution.