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Who I would prefer to respond for blog commenters

  1. maidiebike
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    and commenting on other bloggers:

    Over past few months I've noticed for myself, I just prefer to respond to comments /comment on other people's blogs, if they reveal something about themselves rather than just the pseudonymn. And their blog posts reveal a pattern about themselves/view of the world that makes sense.

    While it's flattering to get likes from strangers, if there is nothing to let me know who they are/which country, their interests, I would tend not to reciprocate in the future.

    Do I sound cold?
    But life is short, time is precious and after getting home from a full-time job, responding to loved ones and others who I know face to face, I have to set my priorities to put them at the top of my list.

    The blog I need help with is cyclewriteblog.wordpress.com.

  2. maidiebike
    Member

    Oops. I meant, for lst line instead: 'and commenting on other blogs'.

  3. hnsaifi
    Member

    This is a good way to discourage spammers:)

  4. iameva1
    Member

    I agree, you should always prioritorize family and in-person relationships... but I dont understand why you wouldnt respond to someone because they dont share personal info. This is the internet, the info you post can be seen by anyone, anywhere and not everyone is comfortable with sharing details, but they still might have some good content. No offense, just my two cents.

  5. hnsaifi
    Member

    If someone sees and like your post I don't think it to be necessary for you to give him response too. Here are two teens with different thoughts:).

  6. maidiebike
    Member

    Well, sometimes commenters/other bloggers do comment/like posts in hopes that the person will reciprocate ...eventually. But true it's a choice of reciprocating or not.

    Just an observation of mine. It's not necessary to give much personal detail, but there is a pattern of thought and self expression from a real, authentic person that is consistent on their blog(s), on internet forums, and in their comments/interactions with others. Or on the negative side, gaps where a person makes a 200 - 360 degree switch which makes no sense.

    If I see that, I just ignore the person.

    It's reality, after all I work for an organization that has over 10,000+ employees, of which I only know about 150 by face to face name/greetings. I or any of you pass by people in the hallway, like ships at night.

    So I'd rather a blogger be openly a (hopefully a minor) jerk, than pretend to be sugar pie.

  7. readytochangenow
    Member

    While I agree with being cautious, it seems like it would take more time to discern if a blogger was genuine that it would be to simply respond to their comment.

    I have an anonymous blog and have been pressed to give my name, location etc...those are the ones I back way away from...

    Ultimately I am honored that anyone would read my posts and if they take the time to comment the least I can do is respond. If their blog is all lies and it still helps me in some form – then I don’t really care.

  8. maidiebike
    Member

    Well, readytochange, for people to pointedly ask for your name and location, means one does wonder.

    I'm just letting you know what my response generally is...if anonymous bloggers keep on expecting/hoping for high traffic.

    Even without a name or location, there are other ways to "personalize" ie. by nationality (not worth getting sensitve about this one that's for sure. I actually want people to know that I'm Canadian because it can make a difference how people might respond to me on certain issues.), hobbies, whatever you want that is "you".

    If I told you I've never been to Asia, doesn't that say alot about me already? To me it already eliminated over 500 million people. :D

  9. raincoaster
    Member

    I don't really get what you're saying. Are you saying if I comment on your blog, you will come to my blog and respond to what I said there on my blog, completely without context, possibly confusing all my other readers? That's not a good idea.

    1) it annoys MY blog readers

    2) looks like a transparent attempt to get people to come check your blog (I know you, so I know you're not meaning to do that, but it DOES look like it)

    3) it annoys YOUR blog readers, who will look at your blog and see if you're a responsive person. Because you leave comments that way, you look completely unresponsive.

    OR

    Do you just mean you use critical intelligence to decide to whom you respond? We all do that, and all draw our lines in different spaces.

  10. maidiebike
    Member

    It's natural that sometimes we do hope one day other bloggers will comment on what they wish to say after we comment on their blog particularily if we like their stuff over a longer time period.

    I tend to not spend as much time responding to people who give no clue who they are..and I've given examples how a person can still personalize themselves abit more without giving names/location.

    I hope I will always respond in context to a blogger's thread, like anyone else. I'm not any different than many other people. Or am I too picky? I guess I have drawn some lines and as years march by, time on this earth, doesn't look like an endless well of water.

    It's just reality Raincoaster, of setting priorities where my time on the 'Net tends to be spent.

  11. raincoaster
    Member

    So...is this a post about what compels you to go to someone else's blog, once they've commented on yours?

    As far as I'm concerned, you're NEVER compelled by etiquette to leave a comment on someone else's blog. If you like the post, comment; if you don't, don't.

  12. hnsaifi
    Member

    I post comments on other blogger's post and sometimes like it too. (I'm not a cold person). But I never hope or wish them to come back to visit or comment on my blog too. At least I can't expect it from MATT. :)
    And the person who do like your post just to gain the same thing is a real spammer.

  13. dovesgold
    Member

    And here's a hello from a flag-waving English royalist who likes gardens, nature, taking photo's and writing :D

    Re: others blogs -
    I don't mind what others do really
    I just wander around liking what I like
    and if I don't like it then I pass on by

    And Re : my blogs -
    well they're my spaces to post as I want to
    which is pretty easy as the main one
    is a nature blog, and the word nature covers just
    about most things really; and the new blog is
    for me out and about, which also can be about anything
    I wish it to :D

    p.s. @ R.T.C.N - sorry to read that you got some negative comment
    after one of your posts :(
    For the record I think it was a good post.

    Generally -
    I think it becomes a little peculiar if a follower or reader starts to try dictate what they expect from a blogger; they presume to' know' the blogger and thus feel somehow competent to judge the content or direction of posts from what is in fact a complete stranger.
    Actually what someone says about anothers post all too often speaks about the reader rather than the writer! :D

  14. maidiebike
    Member

    So...is this a post about what compels you to go to someone else's blog, once they've commented on yours?

    As far as I'm concerned, you're NEVER compelled by etiquette to leave a comment on someone else's blog. If you like the post, comment; if you don't, don't

    Sometimes I go if I'm curious. But of course, I comment on blog I've never seen and never bookmark/revisit.

    But after awhile I wonder for all the time spent, what am I doing? Like reading everyman's newspaper maybe.

    So the adage for newbies of getting more readers by commenting on other similar niche blogs or whatever, is not useful anymore?

    It is advice given ..and it's not bad advice, by the way.

    But it's maybe not to comment much and just be content on the viewing statistics. This thread has taken a life of its own. :)

  15. maidiebike
    Member

    And here's a hello from a flag-waving English royalist who likes gardens, nature, taking photo's and writing :D

    That's all I needed to know about you. But some folks don't even say that. So honest, I don't bother. Actually..it creeps me out abit to comment on a faceless blog.

    So I no longer do it. Call me a snob. (Shrug). But that's just me. I have to finish my breakfast now...

  16. dovesgold
    Member

    That's all I needed to know about you. But some folks don't even say that. So honest, I don't bother. Actually..it creeps me out abit to comment on a faceless blog.

    So I no longer do it. Call me a snob. (Shrug). But that's just me. I have to finish my breakfast now...

    @ maidiebike - LOL
    I think of it along the lines of -
    I'm outside, I see a tree, I think that's a nice tree, I don't really mind who planted it
    I just think it's nice that they did :)
    (especially if it happens to be a Magnolia!)
    Enjoy your brekkies :)

  17. dovesgold
    Member

    Typical!!
    I got the quotes wrong again!
    In the post above, the first part is supposed to be in the quote box and the second part not on a quote box!

  18. dovesgold
    Member

    Try again!

    This part should be in a quote box -

    That's all I needed to know about you. But some folks don't even say that. So honest, I don't bother. Actually..it creeps me out abit to comment on a faceless blog.

    So I no longer do it. Call me a snob. (Shrug). But that's just me. I have to finish my breakfast now...

    And this part should not be in a quote box -

    @ maidiebike - LOL
    I think of it along the lines of -
    I'm outside, I see a tree, I think that's a nice tree, I don't really mind who planted it
    I just think it's nice that they did :)
    (especially if it happens to be a Magnolia!)
    Enjoy your brekkies :)

  19. bokunosekai
    Member

    I don't respond to likes but I always respod to comment because it often leads to a good friendship and we both start knowing about each other through time.

  20. hnsaifi
    Member

    That sounds well. Through comments we can judge the commentor precisely.

  21. dovesgold
    Member

    @ hnsaifi I think we will have to agree to disagree on that point :D

    This quote from maidiebike, which I forgot to include in reference to my first comment here, which speaks of unknown bloggers as being 'a real, authentic person' and 'a jerk' and 'a sweetie pie' ; -

    The next part should be appearing in a quote box :) -

    Well, sometimes commenters/other bloggers do comment/like posts in hopes that the person will reciprocate ...eventually. But true it's a choice of reciprocating or not.

    Just an observation of mine. It's not necessary to give much personal detail, but there is a pattern of thought and self expression from a real, authentic person that is consistent on their blog(s), on internet forums, and in their comments/interactions with others. Or on the negative side, gaps where a person makes a 200 - 360 degree switch which makes no sense.

    If I see that, I just ignore the person.

    It's reality, after all I work for an organization that has over 10,000+ employees, of which I only know about 150 by face to face name/greetings. I or any of you pass by people in the hallway, like ships at night.

    So I'd rather a blogger be openly a (hopefully a minor) jerk, than pretend to be sugar pie

    And this next part should hopefully not be in a quote box :) -

    I have different thoughts and a different believe about such things :)
    if you care to look here
    this is exactly the point I am speaking of
    http://dovesgold.wordpress.com/2012/02/17/owlbear/

  22. readytochangenow
    Member

    Thank you dovesgold :-)

    @madiebike - I might have misunderstood what you were saying - I thought you chose to not reply to comments on your own blog unless you approved of the blogger.

    I agree with Raincoaster - I never feel compelled to comment unless the post moves me to.

    However, if I get a like or a comment, I do go look at their blog. If they like mine there is a good chance that there's will be in a similar niche.

  23. dovesgold
    Member

    @ maidiebike -
    I became curious and so I had a look at the comments made on my primary blog;
    and found you had made two, both of which now become interesting in the light of the remarks you have made here! :D

    @R.T.C.N. - you're very welcome and remember that old Latin saying :
    'Don't let the B's grid you down' :)

    And oh now I 've just cracked up laughing when I read 'approval'
    lol the word 'approval' takes on a whole new meaning when it involves mind-reading and insults lol!
    Oh I have to stop reading this thread it's making me laugh too much.

  24. mistressneko
    Member

    If somebody takes the time to comment on my Blog I usually answer if they've made a real effort to add something to a discussion of whatever the post was about. I always try to follow a commenter back... at least to take a peek at their own Blog. That's the easiest way to spot a real commenter that's likely to return. Not to mention the friendliest way to maybe make a new acquaintance or two here and there....

    If I genuinely like what I find, I usually like to leave a comment of my own at their Blog if there's an appropriate place to do so to "break the ice" and maybe begin finding out more about that person. Of course... I'm an eclectic lil' goof with a fairly quiet lil' Blog... so I don't have tons of comments to wade through in a day either. Just the way I like it.....

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