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Yes Is Messy

  1. Hi. I just started a blog about my recent lost love. Mostly to try and work through the pain and the disappointment. I'm not particularly a writer, but I'm really trying to reach out a bit, maybe it will come across.

    Thanks for looking.

    The blog I need help with is yesismessy.wordpress.com.

  2. Oh, it comes across to me. The sad thing is it probably won't be coming across to the one you wrote it for. Still, it's beneficial for your grief process to write about it. I wish you well.

  3. Thank you. I'm trying to be proactive with my grief, I guess you'd say. I know me, I know the levels of depression I am capable of, and I don't want to go there again. Plus, this happened at a major crossroad in my life, where I thought I'd taken the correct path and I don't want to end up sliding back the way I came from simply because I lost my momentum. I want to keep moving forward, so I am fighting.

  4. I've made a few more posts recently, one about my probably unwise decision to respond to an IM from his wife.

    Recovery is seriously hard.

    Yes Is Messy

  5. Ugh. Nothing I do is right for anyone.

    Yes Is Messy - I Just Keep Messing Up

  6. Trying to think positively, at least for the moment!

    Yes Is Messy - Positive Thinking

  7. Hope you are feeling good again very soon. Just remember that the mind can accept and acknowledge loss and change pretty quickly and be ready to move on, but it takes the heart a little longer to catch upand it takes as long as it takes.

  8. itsa5doglife is right. You can control your mind much more easily then you can your heart. You'll get better though.

  9. That's a very good point. I think it actually helps make sense of some of the twists and turns my thoughts have been taking lately. Thank you both for the kind words.

  10. Still struggling, I assume that will be the case for a while, but I'm working on my positive thinking!

    This Yes Is Mine

  11. Unfortunately, the only way to get to feeling better is slogging through the feelings. One of my favorite authors, Anne Lammot, that really helps me for some reason. I guess because it echos my belief that there is no hurrying through pain, like I said before, it takes as long as it takes, but that there is a point that the grief and pain gets worked out and I think that is the part about your mind letting your heart have time to process it. I will read your blog, writing definately helps get the pain out.

    “And I felt like my heart had been so thoroughly and irreparably broken that there could be no real joy again, that at best there might eventually be a little contentment. Everyone wanted me to get help and rejoin life, pick up the pieces and move on, and I tried to, I wanted to, but I just had to lie in the mud with my arms wrapped around myself, eyes closed, grieving, until I didn’t have to anymore.”

  12. I do have to keep reminding myself that it hasn't been long at all, and that it's going to take time to process and then accept. I do really good for a while, then I get blindsided by a thought, a song, a place. I like that quote, thanks for sharing it. And thanks for reading my blog, it helps to know my words aren't just disappearing, that people are actually reading. I've enjoyed reading yours as well.

  13. I'm still here. I'm fighting, I am.

    Yes Is Messy - Where Is My Mind?

  14. I'm still writing. What a process this is!

    It's OK To Feel The Way I Feel

  15. I'm a bleeder too. I get it all over my blog too.

    Here's some encouragement for the journey. :)

  16. The Twisty Workings of My Mind

    I'm not sure if this is a disassociation or a healthy way of looking at this whole mess. It is a step though, and I guess that's all I can ask for right now. Little steps.

  17. I am having a very bad, very alone sort of day today.

    Yes Is Messy

  18. Anger is a step in the healing process, right?

    Anger Is Necessary, Yet Hard To Maintain

  19. I'm still here. Moving on, as best as I can. I'm having an "I feel very alone" sort of day today, though. So I thought I'd post my link again. Maybe someone will say Hi. :-)

    Hi to you, too.

    I Miss Love

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