Here is the problem in a nutshell:
When setting up the account I wrote in the wrong username. Once I realized the problem I immediately tried to change it - it seemed to work ok, and now shows the following:
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For some reason, the blog homepage still shows the wrong name... "This MatteEs to Youth"
I've deleted the cache, deleted the cookies, deleted the browser history, but nothing.
I can't seem to change this - can't change the username because it already exists, can't delete the account and start over because both usernames (the old and the new, right one) still exist.
Blog url: http://thismatterstoyouth.wordpress.com/