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Grieving for a pet

  1. My much loved cat Oscar died in the early hours this morning. I had to leave him at the vets because he was so very poorly and he was on a drip. The vet called me this morning to tell me he had gone. His kidneys had failed but it was so terribly quick and sudden. I am devastated beyond belief but relieved too that he is at peace.
    It feels as though I am in Limbo right now the pain is so intense.

    Now I need a magic pill to relieve the pain of loss. Anyone know of such a miracle med'. :(

    Thought I'd let you all know in case I am not around for a while.

    Love Jess x

  2. @jessie - hugs.

  3. I'm so sorry you lost Oscar. {{HUG}}

  4. Ooh, dear, I'm so, SO sorry to hear that. I've never cried harder in my life than when I've lost cats. I definitely have never figured out a way to get over the grieving process any faster or lessen the immediate pain, but perhaps talking about it would help? Or writing about it?

  5. I'm so, so sorry. I hate it when pets die because I grow so attached to them. I don't think anything really helps the grieving process except time. Apparently it heals all wounds, although it does leave one heck of a lot of scars in the process.

  6. phoenixtearsheal

    Really sorry jessie hugs too

  7. readytochangenow

    Such a loss to lose a pet - I am so sorry. It sounds like you provided him with a lovely life to be so loved.

  8. Thank you everyone for all your kind thoughts and words of comfort. I have already planned a story for my blog so I'm going to get on with that and hope that helps to ease things a bit. It will be in memory of my boy. It won't be morbid though.

    Thank you again. You're all wonderful pals even though we've never met. :)

    Jess xx

  9. No-one can ever prepare you for the loss of your little best mate...

    "BIG HUGS" Jessie xxx

  10. theinsanityaquarium

    Oh, Jessie, my heart really goes out to you. I have a hamster called Vladimir who's nearly three years old and the thought that one day (probably soon) he'll not be there anymore makes me feel physically sick. I can't imagine the pain you're going through, but I totally understand. Our furry friends make us happy, and it's unbearable to lose them.

    *Many hugs*

  11. That's why I hate having pets, I remember how devastated I was when my dog Champ died, he always kept me safe as a kid. And also when every cat I've ever owned also bit the dust via one reason or another. My mother seems to replace the animals whenever they go I just know I'll never own a pet because of the eventual heartbreak it'll bring.

    My heart goes out to you Jess *hug*

  12. Aww, thank you ardpete and insanity. It's been a ghastly few days but been less weepy to day. The mornings are by far the worst part of the day. Oscar and I had our morning rituals and cats do love ritual. Today must be like yesterday and tomorrow must be like today. Lol.

    You've all helped a great deal and I do thank you all so much.

    ((((((big hugs)))) to all and all of you who have mourned for a loved pet. Xx

  13. My deepest sympathy to you. The most difficult part of sharing your life with animals is losing them, many *hugs* to you.
    I still get teary eyed thinking about my Lioness, and it has been 15 years. Thankfully I have my darling Callista to hug in those moments, as well as many happy memories of the 14 years I shared with Lioness (including all the times I had to explain to my teachers my homework was taped together with little bits missing because "My cat ate my homework").

  14. My deepest sympathy. As an animal lover and future vet I deal daily with people losing their furry family members. I think the important thing is to remember that all those people who say "It's just a cat" are the ones who don't get it. Those who have never loved an animal won't get it. It is no less valid than the grief of losing any loved one. My heart goes out to you.

  15. theinsanityaquarium

    We had to send Vladimir to Hamster Heaven today, and I am utterly devastated. We had to take him to the vet and have him put down as he was having seizures, and we didn't want him to suffer anymore. Being such a tiny animal there was nothing more they could do for him- and he was so old aswell- and so we had to send him to sleep, and I feel like my entire insides have been ripped out- so devastatingly upset. I miss him so much and even though he was such a small little (ridiculously hairy) animal, I loved him with all my heart.

    So just to let you know I also might not be around much on WP for the next couple of weeks, I feel I just need to take a break. He was a constant friend for three years, and an extremely well-travelled little hamster. He will be greatly missed.

  16. @insanity. I am so very sorry for your loss honey. I really know how you are feeling right now. It's so gut wrenching and ghastly when our fur babies leave us. I know how empty and desperate you feel.
    Even tiny pets like hamsters leave huge holes in our lives. My thoughts are with you and Vladimir. I hope he is with my Oscar having a ball at the Bridge.

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