i followed the instructions and started editing catergories but it wont go in the order im editing it to. Its also not coming up on my page.
That's not enough information to provide an answer.
1. Until you publish a post in any category there is no data that can be displayed by the Categories widget or by the dynamic Category page which is created by the software only when you publish a post.
but it wont go in the order im editing it to
categories on dynamic Category pages and in Categories widgets are displayed in alphabetical order.
This is NOT a dynamic Category page > http://worldfullofbeauty.wordpress.com/contemplations/ it is a static page that cannot update with new content.
There are many common errors, misunderstanding and misconceptions when creating custom menus and you can read about them here > http://wpbtips.wordpress.com/2011/12/19/custom-menus/