Hi teck07 and raincoaster,
Thanks so much for your advice. I joined blogcatalog, thanks for that tip! I am told I have to have a widget on my site or at least a "link back" to blogcatalog and they give me a link back URL but I don't know where on my blog I am supposed to put it. Do I go under "manage, then under "link categories"? The only category there now is the blogroll but I am not sure if that's where I'd put the "link back"
Also, i don't know anything about widget and how to get them on my site. it is complicated or do you know of a good explanation (video?) that I could follow?
raincoaster, when you say i need to make sure each of MY posts has a link, are you saying that in the post I should add links to other people's blogs? How is that different from the blogroll? How does a blogger out there KNOW I have put a link in my post to their blog? How do they see it? Or is there a certain place where I do these links so that the blogger is "pinged"?